Saturday, March 15, 2014

I Should B Smacking Someone Up Side Their Head

Okay, seriously, the title says it all.

I am not a violent person and I do not plan on resorting to violence any time soon.

I work in the mental health field. We are taught to know our "triggers" which is what could cause us to lose our perspective or theraputic train of thought. I have mentioned in my blog before about this. My "trigger" is pregnant women intentionally harming themselves or their child. I also of course do not like people who harm their children or intentionaly neglect them. However, it is the pregnant women that REALLY get to me.

A pregnant woman* in 2nd trimester arrived at the facility she expressed how she does not want her child and neither does the father. She admits to daily substance use, alcohol use and cigarette use. While in our facilty she insisted on participating during the smoke breaks. Her proprty had drugs and drug paraphenalia.

*Due to HIPPA laws information has been changed/altered .

I WANT to smake her up side her head and yell at her. I want to tell her how much I wish I was the one pregnant. The law and my morals prevent this.

I WISH I could offer to take her child in. Ethics and the law prevents me from being able to do this. There is an unwanted child (in the womb) and I cannot reach out and help.

Sometimes my job is hard and heart breaking.

Today is one of those days...

If you have children, give them a hug for me :-)


  1. That is really tough. I'm sorry you have to deal with this sort of thing. Unwanted children seems so cruel to those of us who want them so badly. Hang in there!

  2. That is so sad. I don't know if I would be able to keep myself from at the very minimum, giving her a good tongue lashing. That sort of thing pisses me off. It's even worse during pregnancy, because that woman is setting up this child for dependency and possible birth defects. If she can't do the right thing and does not care about the harm that she is causing, why is she bothering? I don't understand how anyone can treat a baby that way, wanted or not.