Sunday, October 6, 2013
I Should B aware that I'm not alone
I admit that I am having a hard time figuring out what to write on my blog.
My new job is taking up a lot of my time. However, due to privacy laws I cannot write about details of my day. They are interesting details! I love my job and want to be able to share my experiences with everyone. Luckily I can share a little (not all) bit with DH. His feed back and support is great!
Yesterday I was at the laundry mat at our apartment complex (I wish our place had a w/d). It was pretty busy so I stayed mainly to myself. Normally I do not talk to anyone there. I keep to myself and get my laundry done quickly. Well in this occasion there was a back up at the dryers. A woman was using FIVE of the dryers and had left her clothes drying. When they were done, she still was not back. So one other woman and I had to wait for dryers to open up. Naturally we began to talk. Our conversation started with our experiences living in our apartment complex. Then it moved to where we grew up. She is from England by way of New York. I'm born and raised in the Tampa area. I have no idea how but our topic shifted to whether we had children. I hesitated and almost just said a simple "no". Then I thought why not share that I was an IF woman. I basically said that we want children but that we would need medical help to achieve this. Her response was something along the lines of oh yeah me too.
Turns out she has PCOS!!
I could not believe it!
She is younger than I am and just like me at that age she doesn't really know what PCOS all entails.
I ,of course , jumped at the chance to share as much as I could about it while our clothes tumble dried.
She is on BCP and Metformin.
She asked me what is one advice I could give her about it. I had never thought about this. Only one ???
Then it hit me.
"If you envision the man you are with to be the father of your children then start trying NOW. Do not wait. Do not stop go. Do not collect $200"
While all PCOSers are not the same, we all struggle. It is better to know sooner rather than later that more aggressive treatments will be needed. Plus, if you want to have more than one child the journey could be longer.
There is never the perfect circumstances to have children for anyone. If you wait for that time then you could miss your chance.
My advice was not enlightening or prophetic but it was from my heart. Given the chance I would say it again. Maybe she needed to meet me that day. Maybe it was a reminder to me that I am not alone in my IF struggle. Whatever the reason our paths crossed as we cleaned our clothes, I am thankful. I hope I helped her understand PCOS more and what it can mean when TTC. Even if she doesn't listen to my advice today, I hope she remembers it in the future.
I am happy we met even if ever so briefly.
What would your bit of advice be Bloggie world?
Posted by Heather S. @ I Should B ... at 10:50 PM